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Pay it forward – becasue motherhood is a difficult but incredibly rewarding career

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SALT LAKE CITY, UTAH – “Motherhood is a choice you make everyday, to put someone else’s happiness and well-being ahead of your own, to teach the hard lessons, to do the right thing even when you’re not sure what the right thing is…and to forgive yourself, over and over again, for doing everything wrong.” –Donna Ball: At Home on Ladybug Farm.

A few weeks ago, I found myself in a common motherhood dilemma. I was changing my baby when I realized I had only one diaper left in the house. A trip to the store would need to take precedence over already scheduled activities. After struggling to get myself and my girls dressed and in the car, we made our way to the store. With a baby and a toddler secured in the shopping cart we picked up a few items including diapers and headed back home.

While putting away my purchases, I realized I had bought the wrong size diapers. I debated using the too small diapers but made the rational decision that doing this would cause more work for me. Since having no diapers was not an option, I loaded up my girls in the car and headed back to the store.

Entering the store a little flustered, we headed to the diaper aisle, I confirmed the correct size diapers and headed to the checkout line. Now midmorning, the lines were long and moving slow. After waiting for a few minutes we arrived at the front of the line. As I handed my items to the cashier, he informed that the couple in front of me had already paid for them.

With tears in my eyes, the sweet couple thanked me for taking on a difficult but incredibly rewarding career: motherhood. With a quick introduction and hug we both went our separate ways.

This is Pay it forward…

The Five-Minute Favor

As I was driving home, I was reminded of the “Five-Minute Favor” philosophy discussed in the book Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success written by Professor Adam Grant of the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania.

The premise is simple: It only takes five minutes to do something simple to help out a colleague or new acquaintance, and it pays off in myriad ways.

“For generations, we have focused on the individual drivers of success: passion, hard work, talent, and luck. But today, success is increasingly dependent on how we interact with others. It turns out that at work, most people operate as either takers, matchers, or givers. Whereas takers strive to get as much as possible from others and matchers aim to trade evenly, givers are the rare breed of people who contribute to others without expecting anything in return.” – Professor Adam Grant

In our career pursuits, we can achieve success and happiness as we implement this theory into our lives. We will increase our network as we look for opportunities to help and recognize the needs of those around us.

We always get to decide which type of person we want to be!


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Betsy Allred Toyn
Betsy currently resides in Utah, USA, where she was born and raised. After the birth of her little girl, Betsy decided to leave the workforce and become a full-time mom. She is currently busy helping her two little girls discover the beauty, creativity and love in the world. “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams” -Eleanor Roosevelt, is a philosophy that she hopes to instill in her children. Betsy believes in stepping outside of your comfort zone and realizing your full potential.

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